In yoga class the other day, my teacher posed this question: “Are you asking yourself right now, ‘Am I doing this right?’” The thought that instantly came to my mind was, “I am forever asking myself this question.”
As are we all. When did you last ask yourself:
- Do these pants make me look fat?
- Did I turn off the coffee maker?
- Did I handle that conversation well?
- Did I hire the right person?
- Should I go ahead with this?
- Should I have let my kid go to that sleepover?
- Why am I doing this?
- Did he really say what I thought he said?
- Why did I eat that when I wasn’t even hungry?
Doubt is with us all day long. I’m not writing to tell you to get over it. Au contraire – I think a little doubt is a healthy thing. While it can be paralyzing and terrifying, it can also stop you from blazing your way down a trail that is clearly the wrong one.
When you have doubts:
- Ask someone you trust. You may not even need an answer. Sometimes just talking about your decision can help you see if you’re on the right track.
- Tap someone else’s experience. We’re not pioneers – perhaps there’s no need to blaze a trail, but many of us muddle through rather than seeking someone else’s expertise.
- Do the old pro-con thing. I know it’s trite, but a list of pros and cons sometimes provides a remarkable visual of which way you should go.
- Double-check outcomes. Do you get the results you want? If not, it’s a pretty good sign that you need to change something.
Don’t smother your doubt – embrace it. Consider it a warning sign on the trail. Even if danger isn’t imminent, it’s smart to be alert.
What questions are you asking yourself today? Post your comments or send them to firstname.lastname@example.org – if I use them I’ll feature your business.