Am I doing this right? Or, a little doubt might be fine

In yoga class the other day, my teacher posed this question: “Are you asking yourself right now, ‘Am I doing this right?'” The thought that instantly came to my mind was, “I am forever asking myself this question.”

As are we all. When did you last ask yourself:

  • Do these pants make me look fat?
  • Did I turn off the coffee maker?
  • Did I handle that conversation well?
  • Did I hire the right person?
  • Should I go ahead with this?
  • Should I have let my kid go to that sleepover?
  • Why am I doing this?
  • Did he really say what I thought he said?
  • Why did I eat that when I wasn’t even hungry?

Doubt is with us all day long. I’m not writing to tell you to get over it. Au contraire – I think a little doubt is a healthy thing. While it can be paralyzing and terrifying, it can also stop you from blazing your way down a trail that is clearly the wrong one.

When you have doubts:

  • Ask someone you trust. You may not even need an answer. Sometimes just talking about your decision can help you see if you’re on the right track.
  • Tap someone else’s experience. We’re not pioneers – perhaps there’s no need to blaze a trail, but many of us muddle through rather than seeking someone else’s expertise.
  • Do the old pro-con thing. I know it’s trite, but a list of pros and cons sometimes provides a remarkable visual of which way you should go.
  • Double-check outcomes. Do you get the results you want? If not, it’s a pretty good sign that you need to change something.

Don’t smother your doubt – embrace it. Consider it a warning sign on the trail. Even if danger isn’t imminent, it’s smart to be alert.

What questions are you asking yourself today? Post your comments or send them to sarah@dayonebusinessservices.com – if I use them I’ll feature your business.

A few New Year’s resolutions for the irresolute

Well, here it is the New Year again, that magic moment when we are supposed to drop all our bad habits and institute perfect new ones. Are you a natural at this? I’m not. And frankly, by January I’m exhausted. We’ve just been through six frenzied weeks of either celebrating holidays or preparing for holidays. We’ve had guests come and go. And to top it all off, the New Year in Minnesota is dark. And cold. How do you choose the right route in that frame of mind?

Most of us from time to time will reach a point where we are unsure how to act or proceed. Not sure how to go forward? Here are my proposed resolutions for the irresolute, for those times when you just don’t know what to do. Feel free to co-opt one or all.

  1. I resolve to get some data so I can reduce the guesswork about which way to proceed.
  2. I resolve to trust my intuition – if something feels like the right course of action, I will take it.
  3. I resolve to ask my customers if I have a question about my products or services.
  4. I resolve to ask someone for help if I cannot make my decisions alone.
  5. I resolve to remember that if I make a mistake I can take actions to correct it.
  6. I resolve to forgive myself for not always having the right answer.
  7. I resolve to use hindsight as a tool to learn, not beat myself up for the decisions I’ve made.

Happy New Year, everybody. I wish you peace, prosperity, and joy.

Have a resolution (past or present) that you’d like to share?