A simple summer bucket list

IMG_0021Life is busy. Life is stressful. And even though summer is a time to relax and enjoy the outdoors, the reality is you still have to go to work, clean the house, pay the bills, deal with the ups and downs of a life. My summer bucket list is simple. I want to:

  • Sit for a few moments with my face to the sun.
  • Enjoy a glass of wine or two with a friend.
  • Arrange some flowers from my garden for the house.
  • Watch the deer in my yard without worrying about what they’re eating.
  • Enjoy the green around me, even if some of it is weeds.
  • Read a good book. Or two. Or six.
  • Share an evening meal on the porch with my family.
  • Experience a few moments of pure, uncompromised joy.

It’s not too much to ask. Is it?

This is a post for the SITS Girls “Stop the Summer Slump” challenge

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The perfect summer spot

IMG_0296This is a post for the SITS Girls “Stop the Summer Slump” Challenge.

Behold, the spot that makes my summer perfect. I know a lot of parents who hate the trek to the beach – the sand, the noise, the hassle. I love it. I have spent many an afternoon with this view.

I’ve worked under an umbrella while my kids played on the dock. Spent an afternoon with a good book in the hazy sun. Been one of the first to arrive in the morning and the last to leave at night. Picnicked on a quiet evening after most others have gone.

I’ve changed diapers in the family changing room. Chased a two-year-old through the shallows. Built sand castles. Visited with other parents while our kids swam and shouted in the water. Eyeballed teens hanging out together on the hill, not interfering, but providing my presence as needed (and also my cash for concessions, of course.) Watched a bald eagle circle the kids on the dock.

I’ve been happy here. Sad here. Content. Frustrated. Angry. At peace.

When my children are gone, out in the world (and that day will come all too soon) this is the spot that will come to mind when I think of summer. And I may just head over to sit in this spot, for an hour or two. To remember. And feel at peace.

Summer and other ambiguous territory

Today is my least favorite day of the year – the last day of school. The day that all the systems we’ve put in place suddenly vaporize, leaving a vast, yawning pit of ambiguity in their place. In past years, I’ve fought for weeks to regain control of the schedule, household tasks and habits of my children. (Seriously, how much TV would you watch if left to your own devices?) But now I have a series of steps I take to help me get my arms around the beast that is summer.

When you’re dealing with a changing or ambiguous environment, the best thing you can do for yourself is put some structure in place – any structure, even if it’s just a little. Here’s some thoughts about how to handle ambiguity:

  • Make a schedule. I’m sure any parent who’s spent unscheduled time with their kids (or in their business) knows the feeling of coming to the end of a day with the realization that nothing really got accomplished. Where does the time go? Have a clear idea in your head of what activity will be allocated to each day so you’re not just staring inertly at a list of endless possibilities.
  • Set expectations. I do my kids a favor and tell them what I expect during the course of the day. What food is off-limits and what food constitutes a “free snack” they can consume at any time. How long the TV can be on. When to apply sunscreen. Do the same for your employees – it’s the best way to ensure your wishes will be met.
  • Create systems. While I’m open to input, I don’t just walk away and let my kids decide how to take care of the household chores. Each person signs up for what they will do and then we put the tasks on a schedule. Do the chores always get done? No, but it helps me keep track of who is to do what and helps me hold them accountable.
  • Document. No matter how often I show my daughter how to do the laundry, her teenaged brain immediately discards half of what I’ve told her the minute I walk away. That’s why I leave instructions in a waterproof slipsheet – how to sort the clothes, what temperature to set, how much detergent to use – it’s a relatively small effort on my part and it minimizes the potential for laundry disaster.

The main takeaway – don’t leave the situation to work itself out. It will rarely go the way you want it to.

During the course of this post, you may have jumped to the logical conclusion that my favorite day of the year is the first day of school. But that’s not the case. The beginning of the school year brings another set of challenges, and entirely different structural requirements. So we do it all again.

How do you handle ambiguity? Send your stories to sarah@dayonebusinessservices.com – if I use them, I’ll feature your business.